cross-posted from my Tumblr blog: ferdifz.tumblr.com via IFTTT.
Originally posted on April 30, 2017 at 06:02PM. [Tumblr direct link]
Human beings are messy. One cannot change the nature of the summation of all of humanity.
To deal with the messiness one needs to be more loving, more empathetic, more forgiving. The way I see it its the most effective way to mitigate your pain and their pain.
Failing that, an option is to extricate yourself from all human communication.
If you have your own solutions, as alternatives, use that.
This is one of my favorite pages from my upcoming book, The Shape of Ideas. I drew it as a student searching for a balance between
my passion for cartooning, my personal life, and my chosen career of dentistry. Four years later, I have rewarding work as an orthodontist, a young family, and I’m celebrating the publication of my first book.
I’ve come to believe that the answer to the final panel is YES.
The book is available here: http://amzn.to/2osPW68
And be sure to download a complimentary poster of “Play Each Day Like Jazz” after you pre-order: http://ift.tt/2nKlPUR
do you guys ever get to that point where hobbies are literally stressful? like people are like “oh youre depressed and/or anxious? just do something you love!” but literally doing the things you actually do still like doing stresses you out because you don’t know if you’re doing them often enough or right enough or if you’re having enough fun doing them
Have I never had a hobby like this? Oh yes, yes I have, no doubt.
Would I pursue it again? Oh I’d love to. If I could ever find the strength & capacity again.
If you don’t fight for your own dreams, someone else is going to make you fight for their dreams.
(So remember to fight for your own dreams. Especially as no one else will.)
(Even as you fight for others’ dreams, as well…)
a: “Sering banget nemu quote yg menganjurkan cintai diri sendiri sebelum belajar mencintai orang lain. Apa sih maksud nya? *beneran nanya bagaimana maksudnya”
b: “Misalnya lo ngejagain perasaan orang (supaya dia bahagia, krn lo sayang sama dia), padahal lo sendiri tertekan (krn ngejagain perasaan orang). Yang ada, habis itu ngomel2 di belakang (ini kan tanda lo ga sayang sama diri sendiri).”
a: “ah, this is make sense. :thumbs-up:”
b: “Logika paling gampang itu ada di prosedur keselamatan di pesawat terbang tentang masker oksigen. Lo mesti make masker untuk diri lo sendiri dulu, baru bantuin orang/anak kecil pake masker. Hehe.”
c: “mungkin filosofinya adalah at the end you can only control yourself. your happiness, your love etc. jika digantungkan ke orang lain, then how are you going to survive if those things do not go the way you want them to, or are taken away from you? hence, love yourself first, the universe will love you back, in many, ever changing form and sources.”
b: “hmm… melihat jawaban2 yg ada, gw berkesimpulan self love kurang lebih sama dengan mendengarkan apa yg kita rasa dan inginkan, seenggak nya untuk langkah pertama nya. Dan self care berbeda dgn selfish (banyak yg mungkin gak setuju dgn ini.. karena tetap dianggap mentingin diri sendiri). Dan ini semua proses yg masih harus terus dipelajari, karena umum nya kita tdk diajar untuk self love, mostly diajar menjadi martir or menjadi robot”
(dari sebuah status-update dan percakapan comments-section di Facebook)
Kritik diterima dengan lapang dada, sebagai masukan untuk memperbaiki diri.
Setelah itu? Semangat tetap lanjut.
a status message from Facebook
There’s a difference between pacifism as a progressive ideology for strategically affecting positive change, and passivity as a repressed position of prostate surrender.
…And yes in spite of all that there is still that in which pacifism and passivity can both each be defined differently as well.